Understanding Patterns of Behaviour in Violent Relationships
Refered by childrens centre Presenting issues: anxiety, depression, loss of trust, fear of intimacy, typical by-products of a violent relationship.
Mandy had just left a violent relationship and was at risk so what we did was created a safety plan for her and her children. We agreed she would make sure her phone was always charged and accessible, had code words to use with her family and considered safe places she could go. We also talked through how she might respond to different situations and rehearsed an escape plan. Having a safe environment in the therapy sessions encouraged her to open communication and build trust. She was able to see the pattern of violence in the relationship and linked it to negative beliefs that she had held from childhood about herself. The therapy I used helped normalise her feelings and using creative interventions such as a diaries, they helped her to reflect on the changes she went through. We explored codependency; she found the jealousy in the beginning of the relationship made her feel special and was flattered, but this escalated into psychological harm. She had been subjected to threats and humiliation in order to frighten her, so educating and raising self-awareness in the therapy helped her to untangle unacceptable behaviours in the relationship - Violence is never acceptable.
Male: joseph 83 years old
Presenting issues, anxiety, was a carer to his wife who had schizophrenia
First session; Joseph was hyperventilating and very distressed; I showed him some breathing exercises for relaxation. I assessed his case and formed a treatment plan for him. He found relaxation techniques really useful, it helped him sleep, lifted his mood and thinking patterns. Joseph found CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) extremely helpful. We worked on negative beliefs he held onto and looked at alternative thought processes to manage emotion and stress. Cognitive Behaviour therapy has clinical excellence recommendations from the National Institute for health. It is highly effective for the most common mental disorders. Using CBT methods, Joseph was able to get his anxiety under control. Joseph had grown to see the world as a scary place which led to panic, feeling his heart pound, getting sweaty palms and tingling in his arms. This had prevented him from going out, meeting friends and giving up his hobbies. He now enjoys a full life again and feels happier because he is able to deal with situations that made him anxious.
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